MEANWHILE, I have started showing interest in a mutual friend of ours.

But there are a few points you should consider: First and foremost, your ex doesn’t really get a say in terms of who you can and can’t date.

You two are done, and it’s been years since you were a thing.

If he tries to intervene and keep you away from his friend, you go right ahead and put him in his place. HOWEVER (and it is a big however), guys dating the ex of a friend is one of the unspoken grey areas in what most call “Guy Code.” If you and your ex were together for a long time, this will make it even more complicated.

Even the idea of a friend dating your ex can give you all sorts of odd feelings, and that becoming a reality can make for very uncomfortable conversations and broken friendships.

if either isn't comfortable, or finds it remotely weird, expect the time you spend with said friend to dwindle.

Is she so close and special to you that she's better than any other girl out there? Do you see the guy having issues with being around this girl? Is she completely cool hanging out with one of his exes, laughing and joking, sharing stories from back in the day and those two were dating?

No matter how cool your friend is, there is a good chance a part of him that doesn't feel right knowing you're dating his ex depending on their past or current relationship. There are tons of girls out there in the world, and the majority didn't date any of your friends. Imagine a scenerio where you are with this girl, just hanging out with your friend and his girl like you normally would. It's just less of a hassle to not date a friend's ex, but to each his own.

SO a few months ago my boyfriend of two years and I split… We are friends now, but there is still some clear tension between us.

Digging a bit deeper, this guy you’re interested in has a pretty big advantage, since he was the “good” guy when you were going through your breakup.