At this tender age, your child barely knows who she is and lacks the judgment to make good decisions about such a relationship.Before you allow or celebrate your middle-schooler’s boyfriend or girlfriend, consider these pros and cons of middle school romance.

For every upside to middle school romance, there’s a pretty harsh downside.

{Tweet This} Rejection is hard at any age but especially so at a stage when you feel physically, emotionally, and socially vulnerable.

Spending time with a boyfriend or girlfriend is fun.

Spending lots of time with a boyfriend or girlfriend takes you away from your friends. But middle schoolers who have girlfriends or boyfriends miss out on great platonic relationships.

Sometimes they break up with a romantic attachment to find that while they were all dreamy-eyed and in love, their other friendships cooled for lack of attention, leaving them “lost” in the social landscape.

Having a girlfriend makes you feel older and cooler.

Feeling older and more mature than you really are can lead to choices and responsibilities you’re not ready for.

My daughter often gives me an update on the social goings-on in her class.

Last week she said, “Did I tell you that Allie broke up with Carter Smith?